Be your own best friend. 

Cultivate self-acceptance and treat yourself with the same gentle understanding you'd offer someone you love. The first step to accepting yourself is seeing your strengths and accomplishments rather than dwelling on perceived shortcomings. Then, truly forgive yourself for mistakes you made in the past. You are worthy of your compassion.

Feel fulfilled in yourself. 

Make a conscious effort to celebrate the successes of others without feeling threatened or inadequate. Cultivating a mindset of abundance (celebrating what you have) rather than scarcity (focusing on what you don’t have) can help you genuinely rejoice in the good fortune of those around you.

Listen to your own heart. 

What truly makes you happy? Set goals based on your values and passions, not what looks good in someone else's life. Let your internal motivation guide your actions rather than seeking external validation through comparison.

Shift your mindset. 

If you compare yourself to someone further along in their journey—whether you’re doing it consciously or not—you can feel very discouraged. Instead, remind yourself that you may be in different places. There’s a good chance they have put time and effort into getting to where they are. That perspective can help you be more patient and compassionate with your progress, focusing on your growth rather than the perceived gap.  

Shake and release.

When you feel that familiar tension of comparison or inadequacy building, try this: stand up and gently start shaking your body. Begin with your hands, then move to your arms, shoulders, torso, and legs. As you move, imagine you're trying to release pent-up stress. Continue for a minute or two, noticing any sensations in your body. The exercise can help release trapped energy associated with your negative feelings and bring you back into your physical presence, away from mental comparisons.