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6 Boundary-Setting Tips for Sensitive Souls
Your energy is precious, so learn to protect it with these 6 simple tips.
Sol TV
October 15, 2024
Are you feeling weighed down by other people's emotions? Reminder: It's not your job to carry everyone's emotional baggage. Setting boundaries means taking control of your life and choosing what energy you allow into it.
Why Care About Having Boundaries?
To Level Up Your Self-Respect: Boundaries aren't about being mean or pushing people away. They're about knowing your worth and what you're willing to tolerate. Think of them as your personal "upgrade" – they help you attract healthier relationships and situations because you're not settling for less than you deserve.
To Prevent Burnout the Existential Crisis: Constantly being "on" and available can leave you completely drained. Setting boundaries is like hitting the “Do Not Disturb” button on your life. It helps you conserve valuable energy.
Because You Want Healthy Relationships: People will know how to treat you right when you know your boundaries. Plus, saying “bye” to toxic relationships means you’ll have more energy for uplifting ones.
So You Won’t Have FOMO: Boundaries help you prioritize what truly matters. You don't have to say "yes" to everything just because everyone else does it. It's okay to miss out sometimes—especially if it means protecting your well-being. #JOMO (joy of missing out) is a real thing!
Ready to Take Control? Here's How:
1) Check in with Yourself: Pay attention to how you feel around different people. If someone constantly makes you feel drained or resentful, it's time to set some boundaries.
2) Know Your Style: Are you a people-pleaser? Do you have a hard time saying "no"? Figure out where you need to work on things.
Quick Quiz:
- How easy is it for you to say "no"? (1–5, 1 being "not easy at all")
- How often do you put your needs first? (1–5, 1 being "rarely")
- Can you separate your emotions from others' emotions? (1–5, 1 being "not at all")
3) Start Small: Don't try to overhaul your whole life at once. Begin with something simple, like saying no to a social event you don't want to attend.
4) Make "I" Statements Your Friend: Instead of telling someone, "You're always making me feel bad," try saying, "I feel uncomfortable when . . ." instead. It's less accusatory and more about how you feel.
5) Have Boundary-Setting Explanations: Rehearse things you can say in challenging situations—a simple “no” won’t cut it. For example, "I need some time to think about that," or "I care about you, but I need to take care of myself right now," or "This doesn't work for me, but here's what I can do."
6) Be Assertive, Not Aggressive (and Definitely Not Passive): Being assertive means finding a balance between being firm and considerate. You have the right to say "no" without feeling guilty, but you don't have the right to hurt someone's feelings with a mean reaction.
TL;DR: Boundaries = leveling up your life. When you're clear about what you're okay with, you attract and create space for the right people.
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