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6 Signs Your Friends Are Elevating (or Sinking) You

6 Signs Your Friends Are Elevating (or Sinking) You

Use this checklist to instantly evaluate your friendships.

Sol TV
February 20, 2025

🤔 Are Your Friends Holding You Back?

⬆️ TL/DR: Relationships Are Like Elevators

🍎 Sol Bites: Level Up Your Friend Game

💡 Don't Ignore These 5 Friendship Red Flags (Your Wellbeing Depends On It)

📷 Video Bite: Neil Seligman on How To Choose Your Friends Wisely

🌟 Words of Wisdom

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Do you wonder what your life will be like in five years? Spoiler alert: You can totally predict it—and it all depends on your five closest friends. Your inner circle plays a significant role in shaping your personal success, including what you’re doing, where you’re headed, and even how much money you make. It's pretty wild!

TL/DR: Relationships Are Like Elevators

Typically, people and their closest friends are in the same place in a lot of areas in life. For example, you may have similar incomes, you chat about the same things, hit up the same hangout spots, and maybe even read (or skip) the same books. Even though your five closest friends might be the most fun people you’ve ever met, sometimes, for growth, you need to level up. Think of your relationships like elevators—either lifting or bringing you down. If you want to reach new heights in life It's essential that you ditch toxic ties and make choices that boost your future.

Sol Bites: Level Up Your Friend Game

Your first step is to start befriending people who are already where you want to be. Sticking with ones who are similar to where you are now might feel comfy, but stepping out and mixing it up with friends who bring fresh perspectives can be mind-expanding.

It’s important to have friends with the traits below. Do yours tick these boxes? Is there room to make new, inspiring connections?

☑ Aligned Goals: Find your “purpose partners”—friends with similar goals—especially if you’re hustling as an entrepreneur. Push each other, work together, and cheer each other on.

☑ Complementary Strengths: Hang with people whose strengths balance your weaknesses, and vice versa. Maybe organizing isn’t your thing, but your friend crushes it. Trade skills and make each other better.

☑ Energy-Givers: Seek friends who stretch, motivate, and uplift you. We all need that positivity, and having friends who cheer you on for your dreams is everything.

☑ Knowledge-Seekers: Choose friends who love learning and growing. Sharing book recs and insights keeps conversations lively and helps you both grow.

☑ Success-Celebrators: You need to be around people who do more than just tolerate your presence. Cherish the ones who get excited by your wins and genuinely root for you.

☑ Get-It People: Roll with those who take action and hustle hard. If you're a go-getter, surround yourself with the same energy.

By using these criteria, you'll elevate your relationships and set yourself on a path to long-term success. And don’t forget the Golden Rule: Treat your friends the way you’d like to be treated!

Don't Ignore These 5 Friendship Red Flags (Your Wellbeing Depends On It)

Your wellbeing & friendships: Are they truly aligned?

Video Bite

Sol TV Creator Neil Seligman discusses how to assess your current friendships and provides actionable ideas for building deeper, more inspiring relationships.