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Experts Tips on How to Stop Anger in a Relationship

Experts Tips on How to Stop Anger in a Relationship

Is anger damaging your bond? In this issue, we share wisdom on turning relationship anger into understanding & intimacy.

Sol TV
February 15, 2024

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😠 Anger in Relationships

❓ TL/DR: Is Your Anger Justified?

✨ How to Control Anger in Relationships

🧘 Sol Bites: How to Deal With Anger in a Relationship in 3 Simple Steps

🎥 Video Bite: Mathura Mahendren on Healthy Ways to Express Rage

💭 Words of Wisdom

This may sound surprising, but anger isn’t a bad thing. It's just a signal that there’s been an injustice, unfairness, or something upsetting happened. However, when you’re in a relationship, your anger can be disruptive. If you’re raging over little issues incessantly, then it might be time to examine the root causes of the emotion.

But take note: It’s harder to address anger if you believe it’s something you shouldn’t feel–that you should suppress or shy away from it. Both people must deal with anger in a relationship; it’s harder to tackle the problems head-on if you’re embarrassed about the feeling.

TL/DR: Is Your Anger Justified?

One way to tell If your anger is justified or not is whether you feel regretful about it. If you do, that’s a sign you know there was a trigger. For example, imagine you go to a party, and you snap at a friend after they compliment the way you look. Later that night, you realize they were just trying to be kind and feel bad about how you reacted. Something triggers your resentment, and it’s your job to determine it.

Sol Bites: How to Deal with Anger in a Relationship in 3 Simple Steps

1) Diagnose the type of anger.

According to researchers, there are generally two causes of anger in relationships: 1) one person in the relationship feels misunderstood, or 2) an external factor (not getting promoted or failing a test) is causing one person to be angry, and they are taking it out on their loved one.

2) Bridge the gap.

If your relationship anger is due to misunderstanding, that should be addressed swiftly. Work to get on the same page with better communication, better listening, and stronger empathy.

If your relationship anger is due to an external issue, the person projecting the anger has to recognize it and get to the root of the trigger. Projecting anger is unhealthy. And if you're on the receiving end of that, it's reasonable to feel mad or sad (and many other emotions) when you haven't done anything hurtful. The best approach is to communicate your feelings to them. How they respond will provide valuable insight into the state of your relationship.

3) Use it as a tool.

You can love and be angry at the same time. If you and your partner can treat anger or disagreements as insight into areas that need improvement, then you know you're in a strong and promising relationship.

How to Control Anger in Relationships

A 15-Point Guide

Anger can leave relationships permanently damaged. But it doesn't have to be that way. Our guide gives you constructive, actionable strategies to navigate before, during, and after conflicts.

Follow our relationship-saving tips to diffuse anger and build a stronger bond than ever. Don't let another fight intensify resentment. Get the guide and make sure your relationship goes the distance.

Video Bite

Expressing rage is better than keeping it in, but finding the best time and space to express it is key. Sol TV Creator, Mathura Mahendren shares her strategies on how to deal with anger in a relationship and healthy ways to vent frustration without harming others.

Gain insight into what triggers rage and how to communicate it constructively. Knowing how to stop anger in a relationship before it starts is an important skill for maintaining healthy bonds.

Words of Wisdom

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Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind.

The Dalai Lama

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