Jimmy Butler, one of the NBA's brightest stars, was recently in the spotlight due to his heroic performance for the Miami Heat in Game 7 of the NBA Eastern Conference Finals. He may be a superstar now, but Butler didn’t always have a charmed life: He grew up without a father, and when he was 13, his mother kicked him out of their house. We’re in awe of his resilience and how he speaks his dreams into reality, but Butler has asked not to be seen as someone to be pitied. He believes that his tough upbringing should not evoke feelings of sorrow.

“Please, I know you’re going to write something [about my upbringing]. I’m just asking you, don’t write it in a way that makes people feel sorry for me. … There's nothing to feel sorry about. I love what happened to me. It made me who I am,” he told ESPN during a pre-draft interview.

😔 What is Pity?

Let’s dig into why people can’t get started, put things off, or get sucked into unimportant tasks when they Pity is when you feel sad or angry for someone else, like when they had a tough childhood, lose a job, or have been bullied.

Pity is an emotion—not a thought, belief, behavior, or habit.

You can’t choose not to feel pity—just as you can't choose to feel less happier or less anxious. Still, while it may be natural to feel bad for someone’s misfortune, in our society, pity can be seen as condescending and make people feel bad (or worse) about their situations. It can also make people uncomfortable because it suggests positions of superiority and inferiority. Feeling pity for someone implies they are somehow less-than, and that person may not appreciate being seen that way. do something else.

If pity is feeling sad for someone else, then self-pity is . . . just feeling sad about yourself or your situation. And it can consume you.

🔍 TL/DR: The Truth About Self-pity

Have you ever been stuck in a rut of self-pity and wondered:

In cases like these, sadness (or self-pity) is not the issue—it's the habit of constantly thinking about what happened, complaining and venting, or lacking good mental boundaries around old memories.

🤏 Sol Bites: 3 Surefire Ways to Stop Self-Pity

When you are caught in a spiral of rumination, you need something to kick you out of that negative thought pattern or lousy mood to get back to doing something more productive. A simple trick is to use the 3Ms.

🎞️ Video Bite

Meet Karly Grant, Sol TV Creator and Content Marketing Specialist.

In this video, Karly navigates you through the maze of past regrets, stumbles, and wounds. She reminds us that the past is just that - the past. It's unchangeable, so why let it consume us? Let's move forward.

🧙‍♂️ Words of Wisdom

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