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One Big Fear Causing Stress, Anxiety, Burnout, and More
Discover 6 transformative ways to conquer this debilitating emotion, nourish your confidence, and reclaim your life.
Sol TV
April 27, 2023
This Newsletter at a Glance:
🧠 What Is FODO?
📏 TL/DR: Replacing FODO With Confidence
🍪 Sol Bites: 6 Ways to Cure Your FODO
📺 Video Bites: Melissa Impett, 2 Types of Fear That Hold Us Back
🦉 Words of Wisdom
You've probably heard of FOMO, fear of missing out—but are you aware of FODO? It's the fear of disappointing others. 😔
While it has less name recognition than FOMO, FODO drives chronic stress, anxiety, overwhelm, and even burnout. 😰
So how can you reduce or even eliminate your fear of disappointing others? 💪
Like any fear—from public speaking to agoraphobia—there's only one way to overcome it: to face it repeatedly and willingly. 🌟
😎 TL/DR: Replacing FODO With Confidence
To replace fear with confidence, expose yourself to what you fear and all the stress, anxiety, and other emotions that come with it. By confronting something that scares you instead of avoiding it, your brain will learn to stop fearing it. 🧠💪
🎞️ Video Bite
Meet Sol TV Creator and Fitness Enthusiast, Melissa Impett, who empowers individuals to transform their lives through physical and spiritual growth. Melissa specializes in healing body image and strength training.
In this video, She'll help you recognize two types of fear, and provide valuable insights and tools to combat them in your daily life. Get ready to face your fears, embrace your true self, and learn how to trust your instincts in every aspect of life with Melissa Impett!
🍪 Sol Bites: 6 ways to cure your FODO
⏰ Consider the cost. Recognize that trying to please everyone will take up much of your time, energy, and resources. If you worry about other people's disappointment, you have less time to be helpful, creative, or do something you love.
😌 Assume no responsibility for other people's emotions. Accept that it's not your job to ensure everyone likes or is happy with you. While you have a responsibility to behave well—and that's something you can control—no matter how hard you try, you can't control how another person interprets or feels about your behavior.
⚠️ Reframe your fear as a discomfort, not a danger. Disappointing others doesn't feel good, and facing that is scary; our brains, after all, tell us we should avoid feeling bad at all costs. But just because disappointment feels terrible doesn't mean it is terrible. It won't hurt you.
💞 Practice reverse empathy. For example, if your best friend has something important to share but is afraid you'll be disappointed by the news, you'd still want them to tell you about it, right? Odds are, even if you end up unhappy, your reaction probably won't be as intense or extreme as you imagined. Remind yourself that your expectations for others are usually less than yours.
💪 Build up your tolerance. Learning to say no to small requests—like going out to eat with friends when you have a lot of work to do—can help you feel more at ease when you need to decline a more significant commitment, such as saying no to a family vacation.
😖 Beware of fake guilt. Guilt is an infrequent emotion that comes from doing something wrong or immoral. Identify when you feel guilty about an issue outside your control (like how someone reacts to you), and remind yourself that it is not your responsibility—it's fake guilt.
Words of Wisdom💡
Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do and damned if you don't.
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We love you,
Mona & The Sol TV Team ❤️
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